My past 8 years of moving so deeply inward via meditation and an extraordinary teacher I have seen so very clearly....ALL relationships and life's events are happening....out of our control completely...by the time our mind has made a decision whether we like it or not...it's already happened!!!!! The mind has to take the experience and process it!! Mind is always BEHIND the present moment!!! It's to seeee this. To seeeeee it's going to have an opinion about all things. Good and bad. It's always got a destination. BUT can you see it's just entertaining dialogue, and it's perfect! The mind is not who you are. If you can see your having thoughts than how can it be who you are???? If you were those thoughts...you couldn't see them.
The mind and ALLLL it's chatter, words, stories are just happening!! They are all their perfectly showing you who you think you are. Alllll the ideas that are limiting you and they are perfect because if you couldn't see them or they were not there to make you feel bad and uncomfortable you wouldn't GROW!!! Your here to be the best version of you possible!!!!
You will see the stories in your head are largely whats already happened in the past and using those experiences to make sure we never do it again. Terrified!! Believing the thoughts and words and mind that's living in the past!!!! Creating the repeat patterns of your programs. And in this cycle and brain pattern we get stuck!! In our own fears!!! Terrified to create the same thing over therfore we do!! Simply because your scared to feel that way again and their is your control. You give that thought in your head any energy it creates it!! It's Science!!
Instead of living in reaction to your thoughts because you hook line and sinker believe them to be who you are...can you see that you can see them?? That if you can hear and see them that they are NOT YOU?! They are vibrations passing through a neuron in your brain causing a feeeeling. Or sensation in the body?!!! In your body!! That there is an uncomfortable feeling being triggered and you do not like it therefore want to fight it?! Resist it?! Change it. Figure it out and kick them out. Tell yourself it's not working and you don't need them??? Make it all about them and allllll they have done wrong?!! Instead of seeing it for the gift it is!!?? That if you let them go the feeling still remains and you attract it all over again in another relationship.
Can you step back and out of the screaming mind it's their fault and into the uncomfortable feeeeeling in YOU?!! Seeing that story has been there for a long time and just keeps changing details but the same general story?!!! Over and over??? IF you can see this....only THAN can you see you have been fighting you!!! The uncomfortable feeling and pain inside of you that THEY show you!!! The way THEY are acting and the things THEY are doing and saying are your triggers! Triggering pain INSIDE YOU. Showing you something has been buried from an experience that hurt you and since you have decided it's best for you to avoid at all cost or this feeling you hate comes back. THEY...your partner, friends, coworkers and family are your reflection as needed in that moment!!! THEY are a gift delivered at the perfect time for you to SEE YOU!!!!! Can you seeee????
If your reading this you will begin to see.
I invite you to FEEL the sensations that other relationships are bringing up for you. To stop blaming or giving the thoughts and stories of the mind your full attention and instead....take 3 deeeep breaths...connecting to YOU on the inside....letting the thoughts be there without you chewing them and truly believing that is who you are? Take 3 breaths and be still with alllll your attention on what is happening INSIDE of you?! That uncomfortable sensation or feeling inside your body. Nurture THAT!! Inside YOU!!! Embracing the present moment turned inward to what's happening inside of you!! THIS is living. THIS is tuning into the present moment.
Can you start to let go of your need to control and begin to let your life happen! To unfold without all your inner struggle and battle! It's already happened by the time you have decided it shouldn't have. You cannot change anything and the harder you try the more exhausted you feel. Love your life!! See the magic even when it doesn't feel magical! What is this outside relationship showing me about what is living INSIDE of me!! Who am I if I'm not so busy trying to control everything and tell myself all that I know???
You are extraordinary!!! You have gifts and talents and you are here to do the extraordinary!! You are connected to an intelligence and the sooner your able to EMBRACE life it will flow through you and you will FEEL things deeply and they will pass NO longer burying all your fears, pains and discomforts. Welcome them!! Welcome you!! Everything about you!!! Allow the pain to be there and knownits just happening and feels like this in this moment!!!
That acceptance of the here and now IS the very transformation of your life from lost, anxious, sad or depressed to be fullllllly engaged, guided and alive will be your experience!!! No longer numb. Moving from depression to anxiety and back to depression. The mind no longer moving from the past memories and ideas everything was wrong, your wrong or their wrong, how it should have been different (which is depression) or the mind moving planning for all the future and what you need to do what they need to do...(anxiety) so you don't end up the same as last time cause that was awful....and the dialogue in the mind has taken over... I invite you to embrace everything as exactly what it is in that very moment. Feel. BE ALIVE. Fully present! Engaged!! Feeling alll things as they are in the moment. IN YOU!! Taking your breath...your life force into all your inner discomforts and allowing them to be there and pass. To EMBRACE your moment. One at a time. Even when it hurts.
It's not THEM 🙏
Happy Friday all my love!!❤️❤️❤️